I’ve wanted to get comfortable with public speaking for ages now. The idea of standing in front of a group used to make me sweat, stammer, and occasionally lose track of what I was even talking about. It all started at some BNI meetings where my nerves would get the best of me, and instead of impressing people, I was mostly just trying to avoid throwing up. Over the years, this anxiety had built to the point where even casual conversations around the dinner table had me blushing like a beetroot and sweating like I’d run a marathon.
But everything changed at my wedding earlier this year. After a few glasses of prosecco and a rush of wedding-day euphoria, I forced myself to say a few words—and somehow, it worked! The crowd was laughing, clapping, and cheering me on, and for the first time ever, I felt the joy of actually enjoying public speaking. That moment gave me a little spark of confidence that’s been flickering ever since.
So when I met Louise Stevenson, the queen of Brighton stand-up comedy courses, I knew this was the next step. If I could make people laugh in a wedding dress, surely I could survive a comedy course, right? Plus, my husband Simon and I hadn’t had a proper date since before the wedding, so I figured we’d mix it up—what’s more romantic than a Tuesday night in a Brighton pub, trying not to embarrass yourself in front of strangers?
The First Night: No Time to Be Nervous
Arriving at the pub that first night, I didn’t have time to feel nervous. Simon and I grabbed a drink and found the ‘Snug,’ where we were the first ones to arrive. As the group slowly trickled in, I was hit with the realisation that this was going to be completely different from anything I’ve ever done—and yet, it didn’t feel strange. Louise’s welcoming vibes and years of experience made it all seem natural.
First thing on the agenda? Grabbing the mic and introducing ourselves. No time to overthink, no time to panic about holding the mic for the first time—just up, say your name, and what you do. And somehow, I didn’t blank, turn red, or get sweaty! Victory number one.
Simon: Secretly Hilarious
Now, let me just say: my husband was hilarious. He’s always been funny—mostly with dad jokes—but he really stepped up that night. The social anxiety that used to plague him? Gone. He was relaxed, confident, and had the whole room laughing. I was beyond proud. Maybe this comedy thing will turn into a new side gig for him… or maybe I’ll just let him keep telling jokes at home.
The Challenges and Highs
The hardest part for me? Reading what I had written. I tend to trip over my words at the best of times, so standing up there and reading from my notes wasn’t easy. But the supportive atmosphere in the room made it all feel okay. Everyone was open, vulnerable, and in it together, which meant that even my mistakes didn’t matter. I left that first session on a high rather than feeling self-conscious or critical—a rare feeling for me after any kind of public speaking attempt!
A New Comedy Family
What surprised me the most was how quickly this diverse group of strangers started to feel like potential friends. From future full-time comedians to those just looking for a laugh or some new friends, everyone was here for something unique, and I can already tell these are people I’m going to enjoy getting to know. There’s something about going through an experience like this together that brings people closer, and I’m excited for the next few months.
What’s Next?
This week, I’ve got homework: writing, editing, and practising my material. I’m nowhere near feeling like a confident public speaker just yet, but I can already see how this course is going to help me get there. So, if you need me, I’ll be talking to myself in front of the mirror and probably stumbling over my words—but at least now, I know there’s a light at the end of the stage.
Written by Sophie Boulderstone
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